Guide to how to Breakup with Someone without being the Worst
Introduction
Why we need to learn how to breakup?
All of you might’ve faced terrible breakups. In some, your ex wanted to be “just friends”, and in others they threw eggs at your house. It all happened because you had no idea how to breakup with your partner properly.
The key to having a sane post breakup relationship is how you breakup with a person. Like you all I also had some really weird breakups. Thankfully I learnt from my experiences and devised a full proof breakup plan.
One thing you need to remember is that the breakup process actually differs according to people you are breaking up with. You cannot be emotional with an introvert or you cannot stay expressionless in front of a sensitive person. That’s the reason I’ve derived these following ways that can be applied to all these categories.
Steps 1- Start Distancing yourself gradually
Do not be very obvious about it but just start distancing yourself. Let them get out of the habit of talking to you. If you’re sending 10 texts a day reduce them to 5. If you’re going out twice in a week with them, start going out only once. Start doing all these things at least a month before
Step 2- Practice a good reason for the breakup
You cannot just say that this is not working out and be done with it. Think of a good enough reason. If you don’t have a good reason (you’re a jerk by the way) then make up a fake one. Just don’t give a reason that will hurt their self esteem. You’re breaking up but it doesn’t mean it’s necessary to point out their mistakes and make them even more miserable.
Step 3- Choose the right time to do it.
If your partner is going through something you need to wait for them to get better. You cannot break up with someone if they’re already having a bad time. Trust me, from personal experience, that’s the worst time to do it. You have to choose the right moment. Maybe a casual date where you two were just going to hang out.
Step 4- Do NOT do it on CALL/TEXT
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Whenever a person breaks up over call, it shows that they don’t have courage to face their partner. If you want a clean break, you have to face them at least once or it’ll never be actually over for your partner. They might try to find reasons to talk to you and this will just be a problem for you both.
Step 5- Do NOT try to return gifts right away
Once you’ve successfully broken up with your partner, wait for a few days before you return their gifts. Give them some time to process things. You cannot spring it upon them when they’re trying to get over you. Although if they do it first, then you’re safe to do so yourself.
Step 6- Do not stay friends after breakup
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Trust me, this idea never works. What do you think will happen? You’ll be friends and hang out normally without anything being awkward? No, something will definitely go wrong. You’ll meet your partner and go for a handshake but they will try to hug you and your hands will collide! Embarrassment at its peak! Then you’ll both get scared of touching each other even by mistake. So staying friends after breakup is a big no-no. Although in some rare cases, people pull it off. But it only happens if the relationship was not serious anyways.
Step 7- Try to avoid any mutual friends
You might think that you cannot just stop talking to your friends. That’s not what this step is about. You need to avoid talking about your partner with the mutual friends. You have to cut off all the ties to have a clean break.
Conclusion
Hopefully you guys were able to get all the do’s and don’ts of breakup. Heartbreak is something that you just cannot avoid in a breakup, the least you can do is wish each other well for their future. Go have a great breakup! Sarcasm intended.
Reference- https://www.onemedical.com/blog/live-well/healthy-breakups
