Important Life Lessons Taught By A Tough Breakup

Every cloud has a silver lining. So does the dark cloud of a tough breakup. Well, initially we are blinded by the loss of that loved one who was once an important part of our life. Those cute morning and night texts are no longer the ones to wake up and sleep. There is no one to pour over your anger who takes it all with a smile. Because you two have broken up. What’s worse than breaking up is the period that follows. But that’s just the beginning of some great life lessons waiting to unfold for you. I have shared some of the lessons that I learned from my tough breakup.

Shedding tears don’t get things done

Back in childhood, things are just a loud cry away. But that doesn’t work now. No matter how much you cry, you just can’t make someone love you back. Shedding tears won’t take us anywhere near your loved one. Even if it does, it’s only for a day or two. If you are meant to fall apart, you will.

Nothing is permanent

Change is the rule of life. People may make vows of staying forever and ever. But nothing is permanent in life. People will change with the seasons. You gotta make peace with the fact. Expectations lead to disappointments. Therefore, it’s better to not expect anything in the first place.

Life has to go. With or without them!

After your tough breakup, you can mourn the demise of your relationship for some days only. Afterward, life has to go on with or without them. You just can’t keep crying over a certain thing for a lifetime. Something bad happened; Get over it. No man or woman is worth the drama in your life.

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Peace in Solitude

A tough breakup makes you retreat into loneliness. You get used to being alone. Public places occupied with people mess up your head. You find loneliness addictive. The calmness of the solitude in the dark of the night is what you need at the end of the day. It teaches you to be happy in your own company. Also, it teaches you to emerge stronger and independent from the breakup.

There can be several Special Rishtas’ 

As Dr. Jehangir Khan states in Dear Zindagi, “A burden of several special rishtas’ shouldn’t be put on one relationship. There can be many special rishtas in life. You only need to click with The One. 

There’s much more than Being in Love

Being in love with someone is a part of life. There is much more life than a relationship. You can be happy and fulfilled without being in love with someone. You look for the happiness and a way to fill joy in the life of others. While carrying a broken heart, you learn to be more kind and considerate towards other people. 

Knowing what you DO NOT want in life.

Having gone through a tough breakup and dealing with things that you aren’t comfortable with, you get to learn what you don’t want in a person. There may be some characteristics or habits that you don’t like. You learn to keep your priorities straight and don’t settle for anything less than you deserve. 

I feel that being alone is being different. Being single has its own perks. You can travel alone and explore the world without someone dragging behind you. There don’t have to worry about making time for someone. You can Netflix and chill for as long as you want. Also, you don’t have to explain anything to anyone. 

Most importantly, the best part is that the last slice of pizza is always yours!

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