Gaslighting – Tactics Of A Gaslighter

 Gaslighting is a kind of tactics to manipulate another person emotionally. Gaslighting is a vast topic and in every situation, a gaslighter can humiliate the victim of it. 

Gaslighters usually impose the blame of the behaviour of manipulating someone onto their victim. Gaslighters are somewhat unreasonable to the victim, to not accept their point of view, to let that person down. They usually use their victim’s insecurities and their past events as their weapon. 

Do Gaslighters admit their faults?

They can also blame their victim of being mentally sick to prove their victim wrong. Gaslighters rarely admit their faults and mistakes, instead, they will try to blame the victim. So, gaslighters tell a different story of the situation to everyone and try to show themselves innocent in front of their victim. 

Can we trust a Gaslighter?

Gaslighting is a slow process, they try to gain trust from their victim and then steadily manipulate them psychologically. They try to be extra sweet so that the victim feels fine discussing their problems. But then the victim ends up being mentally disturbed and harrassed which one will never come to know. 

Gaslighting can happen in any relationship be it Husband and wife, couples, best friends, boss-subordinate, etc. A gaslighter’s personality towards their victim will always be different from the way it is to everyone else. They’ll not manipulate anyone else except their few victims, and gain the confidence of other people (who aren’t their victims) that they aren’t manipulating.

Why do they question their victim?

Gaslighters are usually questioning towards their victim, and they talk in such a way that their voice and the way of asking questions to the victim, that the victim will try to rethink their point of view. Gaslighters not only question victim but also answer those question themselves in such a way that the victim would forget their perspective and completely trust the Gaslighter.

Are Gaslighters energy absorbers?

Gaslighter’s other trait is not letting the victim be themselves. Gaslighters are energy and confidence absorbers and what they leave in the victim’s body are trauma and depression. They show that they are the victim’s good friend and will advise whatever is better for the victim, though they advise something which harms the victim from inside. It leads to misunderstandings with others because the story behind the situation has either been twisted or not been told to the victim correctly. 

Do Gaslighters ever lie?

Gaslighter’s one characteristic is that they are frequent liars. They lie a lot and then blame it on others, that the whole world is a lie! And if anyone caught the lie, gaslighters start blaming it on others. The liars always tend to forget the lie they represented to the world, hence, on being caught, the gaslighter will change the entire scenario to be termed correct

Will a Gaslighter accept your POV?

Another and very main tactics of Gaslighters could be not listening to the victim and aligning people against the victim. This means that when the victim will try to justify their point of view, the gaslighter will not listen or refuse their thinking by making the victim believe that the victim’s not making any sense.

Gaslighter may also align people against the victim which gaslighters know will stand by them no matter what, so they convince (by showing that their victim is a psycho) the people with them to also Gaslight the victim even more so that the victim is in deep mental sickness and depression. And mostly after that victims don’t believe or try to put up their point of view after being manipulated. The victim usually begins to doubt themself that there might be some flaws which nobody like. Then they become depressed and repugnant about it.

Who likes creating chaos?

Gaslighters favourite tactics are to maintain chaos and confusion between people. As mentioned above, gaslighters ask the question a lot, so they themselves answer those question differently to different people. They try to dig out old situations and old fights in the present situation and the victims think about them collectively and as gaslighters do so, the victim feels it’s their own mistake. And that’s how the confusions develop. They may pretend to be worried about you while subtly telling others that you seem emotionally unstable or crazy.

What do Gaslighters take away from their victim?

Gaslighters know how important their victim’s identity is to them, and how important their respect is to them. So the first attack the most important characteristic to their victim and then make that as the main issue. They try to develop hate between the victim and its personality, and as gaslighting effects, the victim doubts themselves. 

Gaslighters are criticising the victim’s personality, and judging the victim’s every move and decisions. They try to impose their decisions as perfect for the victim’s situations. Then the victim rethinks or overthink about their perspective from next time and lose the confidence to put up their perspective.

Are they known to themselves?

Gaslighters are unknown of them being a gaslighter towards someone else, they aren’t aware of that fact. It usually becomes their nature to do so. 

Gaslighters also shows their personality as a very understanding and helping person, but now we know who they are. Please don’t ever lose trust in yourself.

I hope this article was helpful to you!