Thoughts We All Have On Our First Date

First Date— These words itself flood our minds with so many emotions. Whether it’s your first date ever or your first date after a breakup, there is no escaping the butterflies that you have on your first date. Dating apps may have gotten us more prepared of going on a lot more dates -which also means a lot of firsts, but the excitement and anticipation remains just the same.

Dressed To Impress

Thought: Am I looking good? Did my date make an effort to dress well?

Most frequently the first thought to cross our mind is whether we are looking alright. On a first date, everyone wants to put their best foot forward and make a good impression. We are all conscious of our appearance and expect our date to have made an effort as well. Make sure to take one last long look in the mirror so the question doesn’t keep popping in your mind. When you look good, you feel good!

Tip- You don’t need to overdo it. Try to keep your appearance as close to your real self. It’s extremely putting off to see your date has tried too hard or too little. Too much effort can come off as desperate and too little as if you don’t care. Remember to smell fresh, clean, and fragrant. Body odor can be a big deal breaker.

 

Conversation is the Key

Thought: What To Talk About? What Interests My Date?

While you’re on the date, you can often find yourself heading towards the end of a topic and some awkward silence. Try getting out of your head and let the conversation flow smoothly. Try to keep a natural flow to the conversation so it doesn’t feel you are interviewing each other.

Tip- Try sticking to topics of common interests and lightly touching upon a little bit about yourself. If you find the conversation reaching an end, think of something you would like to know about the person and ask them or let them take charge and enjoy going with the flow.

 

Food For Thought

Thought: What To Eat?

Food and Beverages- an integral part of dates! Ask your date what they would like to eat instead of ordering for them. Do remember to ask for food preferences if you’re ordering for two. When you’re browsing through the menu try and pick a light bite. Pick something that does not involve a lot of garlic or onions. Don’t forget to offer to share and try to not talk while chewing. When ordering alcoholic drinks try and keep your limit to 1-2 only.

Tip- Your date notices the way you eat, your basic food preferences and hygiene. Make sure to close your mouth and refrain from making noises while chewing.

 

Let’s call for the Cheque

Thought: Awkward Situation Of Paying The Bill

Most people get nervous around this time. It may not show but they’re definitely wondering how to offer to pay and not get into an awkward situation over the bill. Avoid any sort of bold statement at this point. Even with a good intention, you don’t want to say things that could hurt the other person. The important thing is for both the people to offer to pay. It’s a great sign as long as both offer to pay!

Tip- Avoid sexist comments like, ‘I don’t let girls pay’, rather say ‘I would really like to pay’ or ‘Let me take that’. It coneys your intent without any disrespect. If your date strongly insists to pay for themselves please let them and avoid friction.

 

Seal The Deal

Thought: Should We Kiss?

There isn’t really a thumb rule on whether it is okay to kiss on a first date. If you have gotten around to holding hands and a little touch contact you could be in the clear to kiss. Read the signs properly, you don’t want to come off as a creep. Don’t keep pursuing if your date subtly declines, that is extremely inappropriate. If there isn’t a kiss, don’t be disheartened. It takes time to build comfort at times. Some people get comfortable quickly where as some people take their time.

Tip- Carry mint to freshen your breath after you’re done eating and drinking. No matter how perfect everything is going, bad breath is a real deal-breaker.

 

Wish it doesn’t End

Thought: Whether To Prolong The Date

If this question crosses your mind it definitely means you’re having a great time and the date is going well. It’s alright to have a change of place as long as you check if your date is comfortable with what you have in mind before heading there. A prolonged date most assertively guarantees a second date!

Tip- If you’re prolonging your date make sure you’re spending time with your date and not spending all your time socializing with other people. If you have plans for later, end the date and plan a second one. It could be an awkward mess to take her or him out with your friends on the first date.

 

We tend to notice a lot of things about a person on a first date. The way they dress, the way they eat, the way they can hold a conversation and the way they address the servers and staff around them to name a few. If you like the thoughts they fueled in your mind and had enjoyed yourself, maybe leave a text saying you had a good time.

Who knows what the outcome will be, just be proud for putting yourself out there!

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