Female Orgasms: everything you need to know!

With our newfound appreciation for female sexuality, we’ve also come to recognize the misinformation and lack of knowledge surrounding female orgasms. We have put together a list for all – both males and females to help understand the female body sensations, specifically the big-O better. Read on to find out –

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There are many reasons why a female cannot orgasm with sex – from lack of or less arousal of erotic spots to psychology of the particular relationship. It is hence, recommended that women try a range of solutions to identify the problem. (But again, you do not need to orgasm from penetration) Is there the needed stimulation? Are you in physical pain during the process? Is your mind and heart comfortable with your partner. Ask the right questions!

It is all about ’em feels! Meaning, the movies got us believing an explosion is an orgasm. But, sometimes it’s a liberating sensation that echoes only inside your entire body. No one can know! *wink wink* While some are rapid pulses, others are tingling sensations! We need more representation in mainstream media, right?!

That is right, mes belles! Don’t listen to the men. But, it is increasingly evasive in anatomical science. Most recently, it is found that it is not as much as a spot; but ‘an area’. Of highly concentrated nerve endings. Largely believed to be found on the anterior wall of the pubic bone and the cervix. We will need to do some digging of our own bodies, literally. Feel yourself inside out! (pun intended)

Yeah, that is a toughie during partnered encounters. Why? So many answers – ranging again, from emotional to physical factors. There is nothing wrong in going slow. And female orgasms do last longer on a average (13-51 seconds) compared to male ones (10-15 seconds). 

Also called squirting, it is quite similar to act of male cumming. And we are not talking about simple residue you will find your vee-jay-jay but the expulsion of liquid whitish semi-transparent.  It gushes out of you. While for the men, the liquid comes from the prostrates, for the womenfolk, it comes from Skene’s glands (the female prostrate). It is located on the front wall of the vagina surrounding the urethra. 

Women are capable of orgasming up to 5 times during a single session if done correctly. Because of course, there are so many many ways! This is partly due to the lesser refractory period (i.e., recovery period after an orgasm or ejaculation) in females.

Yup! A non-exhaustive list –

• Clitoris,
• anal,
• nipples,
• G-Spot,
• vaginal,
• erogenous zones – scalp, lips, mouth, behind the knee, navel. neck, toes, inner thighs, etc

You want us to go on? Come one, we won’t do everything for you. (pun unintended) You’re welcome.

Because, we can give you a list this too –

1. Shorter periods, as the pumping and contractions helps uterus get the lining out faster
2. Releases endorphins – makes us happy! 🙂
3. Relief from period cramps
4. Natural lubrication, so no dryness!
5. Better orgasms due to the increased sensitivity of the bodies

Those are 5 great reasons, aren’t they?!

All bodies are different. What works for your BFF might not be the most pleasant thing for you. Female orgasms is really difficult to know about – especially, if there is anything wrong considering the taboo surrounding it. Hence, communication is key. Find a supportive group of friends, family and medical professionals to talk to about your body and emotions. Pain is not normal. Discomfort is not normal. Not being able to orgasm is not normal. These are genuine medical conditions that require and has solutions. 

Lastly, bonus tip. Nobody can help you if you don’t help yourself. First step is to explore. Do research and starting to know your body. Pain threhold. What feels great, good, a no-no?! Slow and steady. Masturbation is a long way off (a must!) But a lil touching can go a long way! Be kind to yourself. This will help in communicating with your intimate partner about your likes and boundaries, helping both of you!