Marital Infidelity in Millennials
Marital Infidelity in Millennials: Infidelity is a break of trust or an emotional contract of exclusivity with another partner that includes Physically, Emotionally, Sexually, etc. Even the spelling of ‘LOVE’ has evolved to ‘LUV’. According to the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, National Surveys indicate that 15% of married women and 25% of married men were involved in extramarital affairs after their marriages which is catastrophic.
The data suggests it’s the killing of that emotion and it’s devastating and quite distasteful. Everyone’s looking for something different and that search for different that it has led us to become less than ordinary. It’s an intrinsic conundrum at this hour due to the availability of so many options and that crave something new that people can’t even stop and process their choices completely before moving onto the next one.
The technology has the main role in targeting these notions. Technology is to be blamed for killing love in the millennial generation. Dating Gurus of this generation have successfully created a dilemma for everyone that has led to a belief that u can always get something better resulting in a broken generation.
The way of Intimacy has surely changed through cyber-dating which has made going up to a stranger and talking to that person directly easier than before this medium is sure to be appreciated. The virtual world has increased accessibility for everyone giving out great opportunities for people to look forward to with a price of a broken generation which takes a high toll on divorce rates and the sustainability of relationships. This online dating platform has set the bar too high as per social standards as if u access any application u will find all kinds of foodies, travelers, carpe diem etc.
All of these algorithms have provided women with the upper hand of choosing a suitable mate for them creating a misandrist system. It creates a binary kind of a system i.e. either you like the guy or you don’t and there’s nothing in between all leading up to infidelity in general which promotes cynicism in people and which in resultant makes people doubt their choices in the first places leading to marital infidelity or infidelity in general.
The perennial design of the human life is unique than other animals which are probably the more reason that Humans need more than sexual satisfaction & emotional availability of another person and as humans, we always tend to look forward to new things and as things get monotonous, we tend to leave or move past them as soon as there’s nothing left of it that’s already been experienced.
The new-found virtual space gives the person a new opportunity where he/she wants to reconstruct themselves, redesign and my serve their need to be appreciated by some other person. It leads the person to build a false image of himself/herself in the world which is ultimately resulting in neither they can be unique nor they can anchor themselves. This leads a person to believe that he/she is entitled to more than he/she may already have which leads to infidelity in any person’s behavior and that leads to cheating i.e. adultery, affairs, emotional unavailability etc. It is another major feeling of missing out on other things in life which in the first place leads to a thought where a person believes that settling down isn’t for him/her.
The millennial of today isn’t ready to live in the current emotion but always weighing his/her choices making the person a relational tourist. Thrust is more on the outside rather than on the outside making the millennial of today losing his/her uniqueness.
Tinder, Grindr, Bumble is leading to the commodification of relationships as is everything finding its way to everything. It is making it more difficult for an individual to stick to his/her choices leading to the infidelity behaviour of a person and in this newfound social construct of love a millennial is losing his exuberance. This results in turning him into a blank person overall emotionally available and this is the age of manufactured choice which has given birth to a new social construct of love which ultimately gives rise to a notion ‘that there’s always something better for me than this’.
In this intrinsic dilemma, we have all become less than ordinary. Matchmaking is happening everywhere since the beginning with the involvement of third parties. But, now the 3rd party is cyberspace leading to a generation of emotionally unavailable millennials ultimately giving rise to a hollow feeling overall and ultimately giving rise to infidelity in all forms.
