Letting Go Of Love And What It Teaches You
“The heart will break, but broken live on.”
We have always been told all these beautiful but often fairytale-ish and unrealistic stories about “true” love and happy endings. Movies or Books, our minds are made to believe that there is a person called ‘the one’ out there that is our soulmate and we are destined to spend our lives with that perfect partner. That our partner will be perfect and our life will be magical thereafter.
Well, guess what? Life isn’t a fairytale and the reality doesn’t always turn out to be perfect. Sometimes, things go west even if the love is true. Reality is that there are a thousand other reasons that can lead to things not working out, Life happens. Maybe the one you fall in love with doesn’t love you back, or they just turn out to be a jerk, or maybe you both love each other but the timing is horrible so you both are unable to make things work, maybe you are so damaged with your past that you push the other person away, there are a thousand other reasons that things don’t work out between two people.
The healthy or the only option is letting go of the person and moving on. It undoubtedly is a painful process but it teaches us some valuable life lessons, which make us what we are, a better stronger version of ourselves. Things we recognize when we lose love are:
Self Love and Acceptance
In the process of letting go of a person, you tend to focus more on yourself. You start practicing your hobbies more, you watch your favorite movies and read your favorite books; you do what you like more. Maybe it starts off as a tactic of distraction from the pain but in the end, you feel closer to yourself.
It makes you more aware of how strong you are.
Yes, the journey of letting go, someone, is tough, it’s terrible actually. But once you’re over it, once the healing begins, you realize that if you can get through this, you can get through other tough shit in your life; you realize that you’re stronger than your circumstances and it makes you feel proud of yourself.
Love is a part of life, but there’s a lot more to life that needs our equal attention
Through the process of moving on, one important thing that you realize is that finding a partner is not the whole point of your life. that career, family, friends, education are as important as love is. We can’t really neglect other parts of our life and make ourselves obsess about just one part of our life.
You find that other aspects of life are equally important; your family, friends, work-life, career, or just feeling happy and whole. Romance is an important part too, and letting go is difficult, but it’s not the end of the world.
Also Read THE RUN FROM SELF LOVE!
Falling in love is not just a one-time thing
Again, unlike what the movies have taught us, falling in love is not a one-time thing. Because what if it doesn’t work out the first time? Are you supposed to be single and stuck on that one person your whole life then? Of course not. That’s toxic and unhealthy. After you completely move on from a person, you’d realize that it’s possible to fall in love with someone else and that does not prove that your first love was any less true.
So, to recap, letting go of your someone, if needed, is painful but possible. Through the process you fall in love with yourself, understand that there’s more to life than just this and there’s possible to find love again. And you do not need to feel guilty about any of this.
Making yourself a priority doesn’t make you Selfish. it makes you Whole.
