Why is it okay to be Bad at Keeping in Touch?

Are you bad at keeping in touch? Do you constantly find yourself feeling guilty for not having a conversation with your friend for a week? Or are you worried you aren’t calling your mom enough? Well then, calm down, because you are not alone.

Some people, especially introverts, often find themselves in a position where they fail at keeping touch with people as much as they should be, and this makes them think they are being selfish and they end up feeling guilty. But is it really that bad to not keep in touch?

Why are sometimes people bad at keeping in touch?

There can be a number of reasons as to why a person is being a little distant, whether temporarily or permanently.

They are busy.

We all have been through phases in our life when the workload can be immense and it becomes difficult to make time for even ourselves, let alone for someone else.

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They are going through a rough patch.

It’s no surprise that life can be a bi#@$ sometimes; one can feel lost or hit a rough patch. During tough times, while some people prefer reaching out to others for help, some people decide to sort it out by themselves. Hence they put all their time and energy into getting their life together and might isolate themselves in the process.

They are just like that as a person.

We are all different individuals, and hence, have different personalities. While some may recharge themselves through socializing, others may get drained by it. But don’t get it wrong, it doesn’t mean they are selfish or they don’t care about people; they simply don’t feel the need to constantly be in touch to maintain a relationship.

So, what’s the solution?

If you’re that person who’s bad at keeping in touch, you might be worried that you’re going to lose people in your life that you actually care about because of this habit of yours. A good way to handle this situation is to let them know about this. Have a conversation with them about why you do what you do and if it is a temporary phase or permanent personality trait. If they care about you, they would surely understand. This way, the next time you go MIA, the people around you would know what’s going on and would not see you as a bad person.

It is okay if, sometimes, you are bad at keeping in touch. Just try giving a heads up to the people that you don’t want to lose so that they don’t misunderstand the situation.

And again, stop giving yourself a hard time, it’s okay to be bad at keeping in touch.